Once you’re settled and secure in a relationship, there’s a tendency to start taking one another for granted.
Now that their presence is more or less guaranteed, the sex is on tap and you can be sure that if they immediately respond to your text, they will when they’re less busy, there’s less of a motivation to keep up the standards.
And in the beginning, that comfortable settling in, nesting phase feels great!
In between meetings, the two would work with a psychologist, an anthropologist and a geneticist to see what it meant to be compatible and try various experiments that promise to jumpstart chemistry.
Without any uncertainty or mystery, you end up launching yourself straight to the plateau of a relationship without the build-up. It’s a part of how relationships progress; the initial inability to keep your hands off of each other and that new relationship energy starts to fade and becomes something calmer and more intimate.
However, “fade” isn’t the same as “disappears altogether” and that spark can be reignited and maintained with some effort on the part of the couple. One of the mistakes that couples make that smothers passion is that they get too comfortable with one another.
But it’s the same sort of fear produced by horror movies or thrill-rides – you’re experiencing the fear in an otherwise safe environment; there’s no , that excitement doesn’t have the same opportunity to grow.
There’s no thrill in knowing exactly what to expect and when.